5 Wise Dating Practices for Christian Singles - Beliefnet
What I mean is this: if fighting in your dating world means hitting, pushing, “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you. Dating and relationships in this society are a challenging venture at Seek healing from the Holy Spirit for those issues before you commit to a. The great prize in dating is not Christ-centered intimacy, but never been a less compatible relationship than a holy God and his sinful bride.
On the flip side, some singles are waiting for the perfect human specimen to sweep them off their feet. Picky guys want a girl who could appear in the swimsuit edition of Sports Illustrated. Or, some Christian women expect to marry a spiritual giant who prays four hours a day. Whoever you date will have feet of clay and plenty of flaws to match your own.
Not developing healthy friendships with the opposite sex. Oftentimes too much pressure is placed on Christian singles to pair up, especially if they are attending a Bible college with a reputation for being a wedding factory. And in that pressure cooker it's difficult for guys and girls to enjoy nonromantic friendships. Relax and make friends, and don't view every opposite-sex friend as a potential marriage partner. Letting other people control your relationship. Church friends usually mean well, but some people don't know how to stay out of other people's business.
They will engage in what I call "prophetic meddling" by dropping hints, manipulating you to go out with someone or pushing you to marry someone you don't even want to be with. And while the gift of prophecy is valuable, you should never let personal prophecies steer your decisions about marriage. Let God personally guide you in this very personal area of life.
They don't realize that feelings can zoom from zero to 90 miles an hour in a few seconds, and that one kiss can lead to intercourse if you don't have your emergency brake on at all times. If you are in a dating relationship, you must know your boundaries, discuss them with your partner and commit to staying pure. Don't spiritualize your lust and suggest, "Let's go to your apartment and pray.
Never start a romantic relationship with a guy or girl who is not a believer. But the opposite happens: The unbeliever changes you—after he or she has broken your heart, compromised your morals or damaged your faith. Lack of healthy confidence. Some guys I know are stuck in a state of spiritual limbo when it comes to their dating life. They may admire a girl from afar, but they just can't muster up the nerve to break the ice and start a conversation.
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Develop some healthy aggression. And while it is true that some women prefer to be pursued, remember that Ruth proposed to Boaz in the Old Testament story.
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Don't be so demure that your future husband can't even notice you. Expecting the person you are dating to "fix" you. God wants singles to have undistracted devotion to Jesus see 1 Cor. Yet too often we look to other people to bring the inner fulfillment that only Christ gives. Many singles fall into the trap of finding a boyfriend or girlfriend to heal the wounds caused by childhood trauma, their parents' divorce or their dads' addictions.
Responsibility Reading the latest Christian dating book and applying it?
Inviting the Lord into specific relationships with people, bringing Him into the gray areas, asking Him the questions that only you and He can answer together is hard work. When we listen to the Holy Spirit we have to take responsibility for our own approaches to relationships. The grace and freedom that comes from letting the Holy Spirit guide is not to be taken lightly and abused or it too turns right back into another law. Because to receive it we must go face to face with our Lord.
It could mean loving and getting nothing in return, saying no to a relationship that looks perfect, waiting, or stepping out on a limb and taking a risk. What if we hear wrong? Not just the simple easy-to-define mistakes — but the complicated gray areas too? We will never learn to hear from Him if we never ask to.
When all we do is come to Him asking for the answers to our questions we only get more questions. When we seek Him for Who He is, suddenly the answers are there with a peace and a knowledge of what we are to do. Need wisdom and discernment? Is He not Wisdom? Is He not Discernment? Next time you are faced with a relationship decision try seeking Him for who He is and inviting the Holy Spirit to lead and see what happens.