I'm curious to your guys experience. The general consensus from friends seems to be that it's exhausting / de-humanizing but I think it's actually. ENFPs take their relationships very seriously, but also approach them with a childlike enthusiasm and energy. They seek and demand authenticity and depth in. An ENFP relationship can be the best thing to ever happen to you—or to know what a dating an ENFP really means for you and your partner.
It can seemingly come out of nowhere. Given that most ENFPs love the romantic notion of living life by your heart rather than your logic, this sensation is not totally unwelcome. Caution from friends and family may fall on what seems like deaf ears. Jenny wants to listen to you, but she also is strongly guided by her heart. Practice some restraint and allow a relationship to grow piece by piece.
With some practice, this can become a great way to build a healthy relationship with more memories to cherish. Falling fast is not a bad thing! Just make sure you give the other person time and space to figure it all out.
Yes, I have experienced that head-over-heels feeling at first glance. A few times, actually. The first time I flew into a lovestruck frenzy. I spent every moment I could with the guy and totally blended my identity into the new relationship.
I did cringe-worthy things that are normal for longer relationships, but not three weeks in. The thing is, I still have no idea how compatible we were because I never took the time to see how he felt about anything.
Not until a clear message was sent via breaking up. A future instance of falling instantly seemed to happen against my will. He was charming, endearing, and down to earth. I challenged myself to reign in my feelings and not spout off every thought that came to mind.
I focused on building a relationship step by step. It was less grueling than I thought it would be and actually provided something I had always wanted: A relationship can move slowly or quickly, the health factor depends on whether or not you two are anchored on the same page. Are You Tying a Knot or a Noose? Jenny is constantly looking to keep her options open. She hates feeling tied down or caged in.
A world that is full of possibilities resonates more deeply than a life behind one door. How then, would Jenny ever decide to settle down with one person? As difficult as this answer is, you have to let her decide. The best you can do is communicate how you feel, what you expect, and allow her the space and freedom she needs to come to her own decision.
The Curious Dating Obstacles of an ENFP
This is a question you will face when your relationship comes to a crossroads. What are your expectations from your relationship? Once you establish that take a deep, introspective look at your situation.
Will you more greatly regret losing this special person or cutting off future possibilities? I always enjoyed relationships, but never saw myself as the marrying kind.
There was always someone else around the corner! ENFPs are all over the place. I wouldn't say they're the most common personality type.
ENFPs love creativity, religion, spirituality, art, people, ideas, and knowledge. You'll find them in a number of places like: ENFP likes to be with people and may have loads of people around them. Don't despair if you're shy. If the ENFP notices you, they'll probably talk to you. They have a desire for people to be included. An ENFP may struggle with shyness too because of their more introverted qualities that put them in an introspective spin from time to time.
Those functions are their introverted feeling and introverted sensing. They're dominated by extroverted intuition, but all personalities have some degree of extroversion and introversion. Don't shut them down if they're being too religious, too conservative, too weird, too liberal, too funny, too whatever. Encourage them to express what they've found. They're dying for an audience because they have a lot they want to express. If you close them down, they'll start to wonder if maybe they should be spending time with someone else.
They really like to spend time all over the place, be meeting new people, learning new subjects, and questioning some of the weirder aspects of life. If you know anything strange, new age, or avant garde — they'll probably at least enjoy hearing about it if not experimenting with the idea.
Love Their Family and Friends They want to introduce you to lots and lots of people. Show genuine interest and kindness to all. You may be meeting people from all walks of life, and if that sounds intimidating, it probably will be.
They expect you to mingle with their friends, treat them with respect, and get along with their family — especially the younger ones. If they have a younger sibling, treat them like they are a prince or princess. The ENFP has a soft spot for children. Knowing that you care about the next generation who will inherit the earth impresses the ENFP.
They want to know that you can take care of the kiddos, even if you're not going to have them yourself. The ENFP has a childlike spirit and desires to mentor and take care of the younger ones. Hanging out with the kiddos is fun for them, and they like how spontaneous and free-thinking kids are.
If you want to impress an ENFP, hang out with them like you would have with someone at recess. Show them that you're still in touch with your inner child. Don't be afraid to play four square or climb some monkey bars.
With an ENFP, you'll be using your entire brain, going from poop jokes to the most philosophically deep planes of reality that you can find. If you're not a connoisseur of words and jumping from conversation to conversation, this might not be the match for you.
But if you're someone who can jump between conversations like a wizard and it doesn't matter whether you're talking about unicorns, Bill Clinton, anthropology, and the Eucharist, then you'll probably be okay. Now, take all those conversations and throw in making muffins, dancing, running around like children, and painting in the mix and you pretty much have what it's like to date an ENFP.
Your mouth and ears will be running, and so will your imagination. You said above if you criticize an ENFP, they will disappear inward and may never come out again.